“WHY I DONT GIVE A ****”
My close buddies told me the other day that one of the phrases I say all the time is:
“You know what man, I don’t give a ****!”
We all had a big laugh about it; I had no idea that was my ‘go-to’ phrase.
The truth is, I do give a ****. I give a lot of ****s. I care about a lot of things. However, I am intentional about what I care about and deliberate about what I allow to impact me.
As a kid, I grew up caring a lot about my image, reputation, and how other people perceived me and my family. But now, as an adult, I have learned to focus on how I feel about myself vs. how others judge me.
I’ve always loved the saying, “A wolf does not concern himself with the opinions of sheep.”
Now I am not calling everyone sheep; I don’t bring up that quote to be egotistical. It is a powerful sentiment though.
Since we are social beings, I think it is impossible to live without any influence from the opinions of others. However, it is key is to be intentional and deliberate about whose opinions we allow to influence our behaviors.
We should let honorable people influence us.
We should let courageous people influence us.
We should let individuals with unshakeable character influence us.
I heard it mentioned the other day that:
10% of people will love you no matter what,
10% of people will hate you no matter what,
…your actions and character will determine the other 80%.
What results will your actions and character deliver?
We need to make some decisions about who we want to be and what we want our lives to be about.
If people don’t understand your dreams and your passions… you need to give them permission to be wrong about you.
If you know you are doing all the right things for your life’s mission, then you do not need to worry or be derailed. Don’t be concerned with the sheep. Be a wolf.
“We don’t need to worry about our reputation, when we take ownership of our character.”