HALLOWEEN ISN’T THE ONLY DAY THAT WE WEAR MASKS
Happy Halloween everyone! I wish everyone a fun and safe day.
For those of you that are going out trick or treating, I’m sure it will bring up memories from your childhood of going door to door in your costumes, trying to fill those pillow cases full of candy!
You hoped it wasn’t some old person with pennies...let it be the “full snicker bar” house. That’s the holy grail! Haha.
Enjoy the time with friends and family and b
WOULD YOU SAY THAT TO A 5-YEAR OLD?
I can be absolutely brutal...
...100 percent terrible...
...the biggest bully ever ... to myself.
Can you relate?
Are you hard on yourself?
Do you beat yourself up over your failures?
Over your procrastinations?
Over you bank account?
Do you find it damn near impossible to celebrate your own success because it didn’t go exactly as planned or it still doesn’t feel good enough?
Even if you succeed, is there a feeling like it’s just a
There is a part of me that keeps searching for some magical door in life; that door that I open and walk through, and on the other side, I will never have to face a problem again. Haha.
We look at the things in life we have already overcome, and we think, “how much more do I have to deal with.” We say, “can’t I ever catch a break.”
Many people experience this during early stages of addiction recovery. They get sober for a few months, they are doing the right things, and the
WILL I EVER BE A SUCCESS?
I know that I have thought this many times in my life. I have all of these ideas about what success is and what it looks like and how will I get there. I have been looking at success as if it is this magical place that I am trying to get to, and maybe...kind of...sort of... I have a vague idea about where it is and how to get there.
Sometimes I feel close to success and sometimes I feel like I’m on the wrong path.
But I recently had an amazing me
WHAT’S YOUR NEXT STEP?
You have a dream.
You have a goal.
You have a vision of the life you want, and then you realize you have no idea how to get there. You think how to do it, nothing comes to your mind, you feel uncertain, you feel unsure, you feel lost, you feel confused...
Boom...now you are overwhelmed, the limiting thoughts take over.
You’re not smart, you’re not strong enough for that, you aren’t capable of that, your friends will laugh at that, your family doesn’
WHAT STORIES DO YOU TELL YOURSELF?
We all have a magnitude of stories we have designed and accepted for our lives. Some stories started when we were kids, some we created as adults, but at every stage of life we have stories. Some of these stories have actually developed into a belief structure.
Author Eckhart Tolle wrote “Every complaint is a little story the mind makes up that you completely believe in.”
Think back to the weekend that just passed.
What did you complain
HOW MUCH DOES A BAD HABIT COST?
Many of us experience economic insecurity. Either we feel like we don’t make enough money, or we over extend our monthly expenses, or we have issues with setting budgets. We look at our paycheck and it’s gone almost before the check clears, it can feel hopeless. But right now,
let’s not look at money from the position of “lacking money” and how we spend money, but let’s look at the opportunity cost of our daily habits and how we spend our TI
HOW DO YOU DEVELOP A DREAM...
I’ve talked with a lot of people that have expressed the anxiety or frustration around “not knowing their dream” or “their destiny”. They have never felt a strong pull in one direction or another, and aren’t sure what they should be chasing. That uncertainty can be disheartening.
But even if we don’t know our specific dream or goal yet, one necessary step for all of us is:
DEVELOPING A STRONG CHARACTER
Sounds simple right...sounds like a
HALT! WHO GOES THERE... A BAD DECISION.
Many of you my already be familiar with the acronym: HALT. It is common in therapy, psychology, anger management and addiction recovery... in my experience HALT is a pretty damn accurate acronym for my life:
H - Hungry
A - Angry
L - Lonely
T - Tired
When I look at bad decisions I make or when I catch myself in a poor mood or I’m not happy, normally at least 1 (if not many) of these are in play. It is almost comical now, because
ROLE MODELS AREN'T JUST FOR KIDS
When I hear the term "role model", my mind goes to Superman or Batman; I think of a kid looking up to a football coach, or a Navy SEAL; maybe even Arnold Schwarzenegger...ha. Some kids might look up to pro athletes like Lebron James or Serena Williams. I think the term "role model" makes a lot of us immediately think of kids...not so much ourselves as adults.
But the truth is, we need role models just as much as children do... maybe even m